In case anyone is curious, I’m 13-years-old and chances are, despite contraception being available, I’ll eventually have a friend who gets pregnant unintentionally. I know some teen moms and women who became moms when they were teens but I’ve never gone through the experience of a friend finding out she was pregnant. When that does happen, I’m not going to immediately advise her to go get an abortion.
The thing is, there’s not much I could really do to influence another woman as to what to do if pregnant even if I wanted to. So if I did have a friend in that situation, I think it would be important to let her know that I’ll be there with her whether that means going to a doctor for an abortion or for prenatal care for the duration of her pregnancy if she needed me.
Despite the fact I’m pro-choice, I’d really like to see abortion rates as low as they could be. The ways to accomplish this are by making contraception as accessible as possible and providing things like enforced paid maternity leave from work, food assistance, housing assistance, child care assistance, and other things families need to survive. Ways to not accomplish this are giving women incorrect information, making it hard to get birth control, and shaming women for making “poor life choices.”
If you have needed or chosen to have an abortion, I support you. That has to be the hardest decision ever and sometimes it’s not a decision, it’s a medical necessity. If you haven’t or wouldn’t choose to have an abortion, I support you too. Raising a child, even if you are financially secure, is a really hard thing. Giving up a child for adoption must be terribly hard. My idea of supporting women is supporting women, no matter what choices they make.
This post orginially appeared on my blog, Function Human Being in 2013 under the title A Friend For Life.